Jul 06, 2016
Liz
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Black & White

Someone once pointed out to me that while I seem to have no problem viewing others through a non-judgmental, non-categorical lens, I have a bit of a compulsive need to classify myself, my states of being, and my own life experiences as one of two very plain extremes. Good or bad. Happy or sad. Success or failure. Careful or reckless. Diligent or lazy. Fulfilled or discontent. Deserving or unworthy. Selfish or altruistic. Smart… or just really f-ing dumb.

Well, let me tell you, for someone with such an urge, the current stage of my life is slightly torturous. Not single, not married. Not rich, not poor. Not a novice, not an expert. Not entirely put together (I only own 5 spoons and I’m pretty sure I got my forks at the dollar store) but not a total mess. Not tied-down (I don’t have kids or a house), but not exactly free of responsibilities (read: bills and loans. A lot of loans).

For those of you that don’t know me, I see you smh-ing and I hear you grumbling a loud and clear “#firstworldproblems”. (“#whitegirlproblems”? Yeah, I hear you, too). This is true. I realize I am one million percent lucky to list these as my “problems” today, and I realize this in part because I never truly believed I’d ever have that luxury. Perhaps the shitty card dealers of the universe finally decided to ease up on me around 2013, or perhaps I’m just getting older and wiser. My older sister would probably argue that I’ve also just become less dramatic and all around a bit less “emo”.

BUT, the point is that happiness, success, honor, deservedness, intelligence, etc. – all of these things for which we strive – they’re not finish lines that we reach if we run hard and fast enough toward one end of the spectrum or the other. Instead, they’re buried in-between; in the mud, in the thicket, and the fog. In the gray areas. We just have to train our eyes to see them.

 

Follow me as I take a reluctant dive into the world of blogging and more importantly, as I continue to learn how to find value in every shade of gray. Please share your thoughts, your own stories, and your feedback along the way!

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6 comments

Robert McRae
Jul 06, 2016

I am a fan of this…. I think it speaks volumes to the society of movie and TV citcom watchers of a specific generation. We are all sold on this strange “do more” mindset that we start chasing our dreams because we know in our hearts they arw atainable! All the while making sure we take the right step not to get “tied down”…

Eventually I feel like we all hit this wall of reality that tells us that there has to be something of more value than this chase that we find ourselves enthralled in!

Complacency is terrifying, but to find the middle ground of the two extremes seems to be the hardest discovery!

I love his topic lol

Liz
Jul 06, 2016

Amen to all of the above! I know it offers a bit of relief and affirmation for me to hear similar feelings from others. Stay tuned for more posts about complacency vs. relaxation :P. Thanks for reading and for sharing your thoughts! Hope to see you again soon – maybe we can continue the discussion in person! Over a drink or two of course 🙂

Tina
Jul 06, 2016

I admire you and your thoughts on life! And I look forward to your inspiring words. You & your family mean the world to me!

Liz
Jul 06, 2016

Love you times a million, Tina. Thanks for reading and for the kind words. You mean the world to all of us and we are forever grateful for everything you do!

Carly W
Jul 06, 2016

Your blogs are amazing girl. Hope your doing well

Liz
Jul 06, 2016

Thanks, Carly. Hope all is well in your world as well – sending all kinds of love and good energy your way!

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